The current generation is more open to surrogacy and adoption than the previous ones. I want to write this article to assess what adopted kids and adoptive parents go through at a personal and societal level. Is there a difference in how foster parents treat their kids regarding love, affection, discipline, openness, trust, and expectations? Do kids who are adopted feel the same as other kids?
The most famous examples of foster parents are Sushmita Sen, Raveena Tandon, Angelina Jolie, Hugh Jackman, and the CEO of my previous company. Raveena and Angelina have played the dual roles of biological and adoptive parents. Their adoption can be seen as an act of kindness and has less to do with their desire to be parents. The company’s CEO I worked for had three daughters, so he adopted a son to have a legal heir to his business and property. Sushmita Sen is an example of a parent who wanted to be a mother without waiting for a partner to become a biological mother.
I witnessed a few cases in my late teens. These were the people I saw daily. One couple adopted the child of a close relative because they did not want someone from another bloodline. Another couple adopted a girl from an orphanage, but she ran away from the house as a teenager. She did come back when she realized her mistake, though. There are also examples of people who were picked up from the streets and raised as their own by their adoptive family, such as Salman Khan’s sister and the winner of Indian Idol 13, Rishi, a contestant from Ayodhya in the reality show.
In Indian society, traditional families will not accept a child from an orphanage. Moreover, your partner should also be willing to adopt an orphan. Someone acquainted with me wanted to adopt a child, but her partner was not ready for it, so they had to try other means of having biological kids.
The personal and societal dilemmas that adoptive parents and adopted children face cannot be overlooked. Initially, parents must agree among themselves about adoption. Once they adopt, they worry that their families will treat the kids differently. Adoptive parents can be reluctant to discipline their children as they fear being judged by society. In addition, there are reports of child abuse by adoptive parents. We read about such cases in the newspaper regularly. Adopted kids find it hard to accept when they finally know that they are adopted, and they crave to learn the real identity of their biological parents.
I have read happy stories of people who were adopted and brought up well by their foster parents. Adoption has a positive impact on the personal growth of the child. They can have a better education, a better life, and a family they can call their own. One cannot change how and where someone is born, but can only adapt to the situations and people in their lives. It is better to consider adoption only if you are well-prepared to care for the child with devotion; otherwise, simply sponsoring a child can also positively change his life.
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